What is the most important thing God wants husbands to do? Is it to provide an income for the family? Is it to be the leader of the family? Is it to take out the trash on garbage day? Let’s take a quick look at God’s biggest job for husbands.
The role of the husband is explained in Ephesians chapter 5 verses 25-33. Let’s look at verse 25: “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her”. That is the first job of a husband!! And yes, it is very very hard to do. It is hard to die to ourselves, to our wants and needs. It is hard to have that level of love for our wife. As husbands, God calls us to love our wife to the point of dying for her, like Jesus died for all the sinners that make up the church. As a husband myself, I fail every day to love my wife with this kind of love. So, how much should you love your wife? Verses 28 and 29 answer that: “In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church”. We all love ourselves and our body. We feed our body when we are hungry. We go see a doctor when we are sick. God wants us to love our wife with the same love we have for ourselves. That too is hard to do!
God wants a husband to value his wife and focus on her needs. In Philippians 2:3, we are commanded to “do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves”. God wants us to consider our wife as better than ourself! Verse 4 continues: “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.” Why should we consider the interests of others as better than our interests? Because that is what Jesus did! He became a servant. Of all people, Jesus (God in the flesh) deserved his rights, and deserved to be treated much better. Yet, he purposefully left us a model of servanthood and He asks us to be like Him. “Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.” (Philippians 2:5-7)
What is the biggest job of a husband? Husbands are commanded to love their wives. They are commanded to love them so much that they die for their wives, like Christ died for the Church!